Book Review: The Gifts Of Imperfection by Dr. Brené Brown

“Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness.” 

How many of us go through the day and wonder: “am I good enough? “What will people think?” “If I fail, how will I face the world?” From simple observations with people nearest and dearest to me, I’ve come to realize that the topic of vulnerability is rarely at the forefront of a conversation. We’re all gossiping about who did what, what’s so&so doing these days, celebrity drama, political rivalries, what’s the best filter for our Instagram photos and everything else in between.

But what about matters of the heart? We go through life putting on a perfectly scripted show for everyone to see yet worry, feel shame, loneliness and incompetence in moments of solitude.

Shouldn’t it be our duty to live with boldness & courage to bring up topics that shake us to our core? What good is it to be surrounded by a room full of people, but simultaneously feel alone and unheard?

The Gifts of Imperfection is a book everyone on a journey of embracing their authenticity should read at least once in their lifetime. 125 pages, 10 Guideposts, research-based, simplified concepts & loaded with wisdom, this book is like having a personal life coach in the palm of your hands.

Grab a cup of coffee or tea and let’s talk about the things that get in the way of us living & loving from a place of worthiness & self-acceptance.

Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval and acceptance.”

Concepts like perfectionism, shame & guilt are ones I share a deep-rooted bond with. Growing up I always craved the approval of others; from the clothes I wore, to the grades I got in school to validating my self-worth, my energy was always channeled outside of me rather than being cultivated within me.

Now there are so many instances I can talk about in regards to shame, guilt and vulnerability. But in order to practice the wisdom I’ve learned from this book I chose to talk about self-image as a way of exposing a side of myself that nobody gets to see in person.

Whether you’re a regular reader on this blog or this is your first time stopping by, I’ve shared my struggles with self-acceptance in terms of body image before on this forum. If I could choose one phrase to describe myself from childhood to early adulthood it would be: “people pleaser.” I never felt good enough in my own skin growing up & I never really knew why, perhaps it was because I didn’t know my worth at the time or realize the truth of the matter.

Actions like shopping every weekend for new school outfits, getting acrylic nails, wanting the latest designer bags, listening to the same music as my friends, acting like I didn’t care about school & my future were among the few ways I gave up who I was to become someone others would like and accept in society. I wanted to be “somebody.” For once I wanted to be known as the “cool kid.”

But from what I’ve learned and as cliché as it may sound, being yourself is the coolest thing you can be.

We’ve always been enough, but to the people who don’t know how to love themselves we will always be inadequate. I like to think of us humans as mirrors. The truth we embody is what we project outwards. If we love ourselves, accept ourselves & our imperfections, then we have a greater capacity to mirror that and embrace someone else’s qualities (good or bad). If we want other people to ‘label’ us as worthy we must cultivate our own worth first and foremost.

“The only contribution that we will ever make in this world will be born of our creativity… if we want to make meaning, we need to make art.”

Whoever you are, whatever you do for a living or don’t do, whatever you’ve accomplished or haven’t accomplished, whatever you look like, whatever the circumstances, please know that YOU ARE WORTHY! You may not see your value yet but embark on the road towards realizing & owning your truth. It’s the greatest gift you can give yourself and to the world.

Deep down we all crave belonging in society. That’s primarily why we do the things we do and tailor the way we behave around others. Let’s lift the velvet curtain for a change and show the audience who’s really the mastermind behind it all.

If you’re going to put on a show for people to see, at least make it an original piece.

Friends, thank you again for stopping by on this blog post! I hope you’ve been inspired to embrace your imperfections as valuable gifts and let go of who you think you’re supposed to be.

I wish you abundance with all my heart.

With light,

Ashna

XOXO

 

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