Freedom (n): the power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without hindrance or restraint.
Keeping this definition in the foreground of his perspective, Don Miguel Ruiz has crafted these four agreements. Essential to our personal freedom spiritual growth and transformation, if you live by these principles, nirvana will be at your fingertips.
Isn’t that what we’re all here for? Deep down, isn’t our purpose in life to be happy, free and authentic? Sometimes we become hostages of our own thoughts and point of views that freedom seems impossible to achieve. I’m here to tell you, it’s not as hard as we make it out to be.
Don Miguel Ruiz’s- The Four Agreements is a how-to guide filled with applicable lessons, simple examples and ancient wisdom we all can incorporate in order to live a more content existence. 143 pages, 7 easy to follow chapters and an overall common sense message, the four agreements is a book you should read at least once in your lifetime. With that being said, let’s dive right in…
“Death is not the biggest fear we have; our biggest fear is taking the risk to be alive –the risk to be alive and express what we really are.”
- First Agreement: Be impeccable with your word
I’ve been working on this one for a while now. Each day, I hold myself accountable for the promises I make – either to myself or to others. No doubt, it’s probably the toughest thing to do when nobody’s around to remind you. Rather than making empty promises that I know I won’t be able to fulfill in the future, I choose to take a pause. Let’s say a friend asks me to help them move into their new apartment or I’m supposed to make it to the gym for my third workout over the weekend. *pause* ask yourself: “will I be able to follow through with this?” If your answer is no, don’t make false promises. Use your words wisely & be honest.
- Second Agreement: Don’t take anything personally
This one is a no-brainer, but crucial to maintaining harmony and keeping your emotional roller-coaster from speeding off in infinite directions. Why is it that humans believe that the world revolves around them? Last time I checked, planet Earth revolves around the Sun, not our limited mindsets. So, when someone compliments us or insults us, why do we take it to heart? For many years I was the root of my emotional instability because I swallowed the poison of others. Growing up an overweight kid, everyone was so quick to pass judgement and negative comments about my appearance. Over time I believed these ‘opinions’ as the truth… what a mistake! This quote hits it home for me: “what others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.”
- Third Agreement: Don’t make assumptions
Keep it stupid simple! If you’re unsure of something – an outcome, someone else’s beliefs or feelings, the repercussion of your actions then just be straightforward and ask questions. Learn to express yourself. Communication is the bridge between assumptions and facts. Save yourself the energy of re-thinking scenarios in your mind and communicate your concerns & intentions.
- Fourth Agreement: Always do your best!
Your best will change from day-to-day and that’s perfectly okay. We forget this agreement so often, don’t we? Comparison is a killer and we drink that poison every time we scroll through our social media accounts or post a status update on our Facebook. Our lives are measured according to a scale we did not design ourselves. How will we live contently, then? Do your best, thats all that matters. Show up and give your 100%. Act and be patient.
“We don’t need to prove anything. Just to be, to take a risk and enjoy your life, is all that matters. Say no when you want to say no, and yes when you want to say yes.”
There they are- the four agreements that will help navigate you towards personal freedom. Thank you to my friend Jonathan for recommending this book to me. It has been tranformative and eye-opening, and for that I am grateful to you.
Friends, I hope you all enjoyed this book review! I’ll talk to you again soon…
Till then, take care.
With love & light,